Parenting is hard. Juggling being a parent with being a husband/wife and an employee takes organizational skills and time management. Letting your kids down from time to time is inevitable…you’re not a superhero and you can’t be everywhere at the same time!
When a child accepts that their parent has disappointed them again is the saddest thing to witness. Watching as they realize their Mum/dad won’t be their to watch their play; their recital; their graduation; their match…after promising they’d be there. This is not OK.
Not being there for these important moments after telling them you would be has consequences for their mental health and emotional development.
It’s not possible to always be there, and that’s understandable, but it is possible to not promise them the world and not follow through.
If you know you won’t/can’t make an important event in your child’s life (it may not be important to you but might feel like the most important thing to them), speak to your child and explain that you won’t be there and tell them why. Help them to understand that it’s unavoidable but you’ll try for the next time. But make sure you do try for next time. At some stage you need to show up, to be there, to watch them. It’s vital to their development that they feel they are the most important person in your life at that time.
To them your presence is more important than your work or other commitments.