Its not easy being a parent. But it is easy to judge them. Even as a parent myself, I find myself judging other mums and dads. Why do we do this? Do we have an inherent need to feel superior? That we’re better than others? Could we really do the job better when faced with the same circumstances? Possibly, but maybe not.
I don’t think we spend enough time thinking about what a parent has gone through already in a day before we judge. Yes, that Mum lost her shit with her kid in the supermarket….ask yourself why before you decide she’s a bad Mum or that you could do it better.
If you’re a parent, think about a time that your child pushed every single button and pulled on every single nerve…I can guarantee there was at least a handful of times this has happened to you. Then maybe ask that Mum, is she ok, does she need a hand with anything. Or simply validate how she’s feeling and tell her she’s doing ok. Ok, so there’s a good chance you’ll get your head bitten off, but when that Mum has had chance to calm herself, even if she’s home, she’ll think about what you tried to do for her, and it may just help her feel better. That the whole world isn’t against her, staring and judging.
It’s the little things we do that can make a big difference to someone’s day.
I know when I had 4 kids under 5, it would have been nice to have been asked how I was and if I needed anything…I probably wouldn’t have accepted the offer at the time, but at least I would have felt like someone was on my side.